Monday, 2 December 2013

Sophie and Her Imaginary Friend

My daughter has Imaginary friends,before It was Pooh and Baby Chayote as she called it.now, She has new Imaginary friend whom She calls Summer,Summer is my family's pet dog.I can't remember the first time she had an imaginary friend but I've been seeing her talk and play with her Imaginary friends for several months now.I was alarmed at first especially when she kept on talking nonstop about her imaginary friend.Like,when she's happy she tells Summer about it,When she cries or sad or mad she blames Summer.

One morning I saw her in her kitchen playset busy pretending she was cooking."What are you doing pi?"
"Nagluto po,breakfast for Summer po. kase gutom na sya eh"
 and after taking a bath she would exclaimed
"Yehey,finished na kame shower ni Summer,Bango na po kame mommy"and then"amoy mo si Summer mommy bango na po xa" I have to pretend I can smell Summer coz if not magwawala sya ng bongga.
and when she thinks she have done something wrong she will blame summer like one time her dad caught her donning lipstick "Pia what's that?"
She suddenly cried and said " Si Summer daddy.away ako" 

My husband just asked me if there's something wrong with our daughter.He said he's worried.He asked me if it's normal.I can't answer him nor tell him not to worry coz I don't really know much about that so yesterday We busied ourself surfing the net about Imaginary friend.


 Baby center says:
A toddler who has Imaginary friend is not just normal but also very creative,The child's burgeoning imagination fuels this wonderful fictitious creation,,someone who accompanies her as she explores the world.Firstborns often have imaginary friends,as do very bright kids.More here.

 The Wall Street Journal(The Verge)
Children who keep Imaginary friends eventually develop better internalized thinking,w/c separately has been found to help children do better with cognitive task like planning and puzzle solving.More here.

 The Child Study Center says:
Imaginary friends serve several useful purposes.They enable children to try out different relationships at critical point in their social development.They allow children to explore issues of control,discipline and power without the anxiety attached to interaction with real authority figures. For example,If you hear your young daughter scolding an imaginary friend, don't automatically assume that you've been too harsh with her.The scenario may be your child's imaginative way of trying to understand concepts of authority,right and wrong punishment.An imaginary friend help your child cope with difficult emotions.for example, a child who spills a glass of milk may blame the imaginary friend as a way of dealing with his/her guilt-a perfectly normal strategy.More here.

 Psychology Today says:
Children with Imaginary companions tend to be less shy,engage in more laughing and smiling with peers and do better at tasks involving imagininga how someone else might think.Having an Imaginary friend is not evidence that a child is troubled however, Imaginary friends can be a source of comfort when a child is experiencing difficulties.There are many case studies of children inventing imaginary friends to help them cope with traumatic experiences.More here.

Now,We know...=)


w/her baby Chayote

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